Last month, my friend Maddy received a stressful phone call from her daughter's school counselor. Her daughter Sierra, age 10, had approached the school counselor and told her there was something very important she needed to discuss. Sierra wanted the school counselor, Mrs. Gonnigan, to arrange a meeting with Sierra, Mrs. Gonnigan and Maddy. Sierra said there were some important issues she needed to confront her mother about. Mrs. Gonnigan was worried. What could it be? Neglect, sexual abuse, starvation, foul language, corporal punishment?
Mrs. Gonnigan stressed over how she would approach Maddy for the meeting. She imagined that Sierra would be upset. She imagined that Sierra would hurl accusations at her mother and her mother would break down and apologize or would become angry that Sierra had aired dirty laundry. She imagined that Maddy could end up filing complaints, removing her daughter from the school, or that Mrs. Gonnigan would be forced to make a social services report.
Mrs. Gonnigan finally arranged the meeting. Maddy arrived and the two women retrieved Sierra from her class room. Mrs. Gonnigan said, Sierra, "do you remember what you want to talk about"? Sierra's voice quivered as she answered "yes, I have it all planned out". As she said this she took out index cards, upon which she had written notes for her speech.
The three went into a conference room. Sierra was so nervous, she chose to stand rather than sit. Mrs. Gonnigan asked her if she was ready and if she needed anything. Sierra wanted a dry erase board; when one couldn't be found she pressed on. She prepared her note cards, cleared her throat and began to speak. Mrs. Gonnigan said "it's okay Sierra, go ahead". "Okay" said Sierra. "Here's the deal, mom, you promised me a dog and we never got one. I want a dog". "And?", asked Mrs. Gonnigan. Sierra replied "that's all".
Maddy was flabbergasted that this whole meeting had been arranged, the two women had been manipulated so that her ten year old could make an animal demand. After thinking it over and talked to Sierra at home, the two compromised. They bought a hamster and named it Rose.
Theme song lyrics - The Rose
Some say love, it is a canine
That pounces down the street
Some say love it is a feline
whose litter box you clean
Some say love it is a hamster
an endless daily feed
I say love it is a child's pet
but for you it's never free
It's the mom afraid of stinking
who prefers the kids have plants
It's the dad afraid of termites who never buys the ants
It's the one who'll be forsaking
who cannot seem to give
on the whole afraid of failing, so never lets the kid
When their room has been too lonely
and the've wanted all along
and you think their want is only
for a cat, a snake or dog
Just remember in the winter when the kid is stuck inside
that the pet store
has a gray hamster
and your kid
will name it Rose.